“Texas Women” is a new television show that premiers July 14, 2011 (CMT).  Have you seen the ads?  A fire rose up inside of me as I watched women flaunting their attitudes and their curves, acting tough like “real men” and using language that makes them appear as hard as nails.  I was surprised at my strong reaction as I watched this ad appear over and over again on the CMT channel.  For a split second I asked myself why it made me so indignant.  It didn’t take me long to figure it out:  The commercial made it appear as though these women are representative of Texas women.  I am a Texas woman.  My daughter, daughter-in-love and granddaughters are Texas women.  It was as though these hard-as-nails women were to be admired and emulated as “real women” of Texas and American society today.  I was insulted.  Now I am upset.

I think part of the reason that I was surprised at the strength of my initial reaction is because I am not insulted often enough.  I have become desensitized to this kind of lie, to commercials with this visual demonstration of tough, hard, drinking, cussing, examples to the women and girls around me.  If I am desensitized when I was raised in a generation where this was not done on the screen, how much more accustomed must younger women and girls see this as some kind of viable type of behavior?

Who are we teaching our girls to be?  Are we teaching them to talk, walk and fight like men through what we are accepting as humorous or interesting on the screen?  Honestly, I wouldn’t want my son to act like that, let alone my daughter or granddaughters.  I want my daughter and daughter-in-love to be living breathing examples of a real woman; all the while training their girls to be strong, yes, but to have a quiet and gentle spirit that pleases God.  I want the same for your daughters and granddaughters.  There is no doubt in my mind at all that a quiet and gentle feeling is hard to sense in the world in which we now live.  Therefore, a quiet and gentle spirit is even more difficult to identify and develop within ourselves and those who follow us.

It has to be a tremendous hurdle to acquire a true understanding of what this means if mothers and daughters view much television at all, and if there has not been a woman in your life who lived out and taught this kind of gentle character. My hope is that each of us will be wise enough to do what it takes to learn what it means and then live out this kind of wisdom and gentleness in front of our daughters and granddaughters.

My fervent prayer is that this generation of mothers and grandmothers will actively seek to break the chains of what is being modeled wrongly.  We really can raise our girls to have a sense of dignity that is born of strong and gentle character and fitting of a daughter of the King. 

I Peter 3:3-4
New International Version (NIV)

3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight